Tag Archives: family dispute resolution

Kristen Blankley’s Paper on Online Resources and Implementing Parenting & Financial Plans

March 25, 2020 John Lande Leave a comment

From BFOI Kristen Blankley: Colleagues, Here is a near-final draft of an upcoming paper that I am publishing in the Fordham Law Review. It is about Online Resources and implementing Parenting & Financial Plans. Maybe it will give some people new ideas on working with parenting and financial plans in a pandemic. It might give … Continue reading Kristen Blankley’s Paper on Online Resources and Implementing Parenting & Financial Plans →

A Story of a Good Divorce

March 13, 2020 John Lande Leave a comment

I recently wrote a post about the film, Marriage Story, which depicts a somewhat bad divorce. That story fit into very common negative narratives about bad divorces and divorce lawyers. Of course, there are bad divorces and divorce lawyers – though probably not as many as suggested in popular culture. Indeed, to reflect some balance, … Continue reading A Story of a Good Divorce →

Job Opportunity as AFCC Program Director

January 8, 2020 John Lande Leave a comment

Here’s an announcement for a job opportunity as AFCC Program Director. In case you aren’t familiar with Peter Salem and the AFCC, they really are great. Please pass this along to anyone who you think might be interested. Click on the title of the post to access the job announcement.

It’s Not All the War of the Roses

January 5, 2020 John Lande 2 Comments

There’s a very common myth that all divorces are bitter cat-and-dog struggles like the movie, The War of the Roses. (Of course, many cats and dogs get along just fine, like mine do.) This myth just ain’t so. Although the couple in Marriage Story had some angry fights, they retained a reservoir of love and … Continue reading It’s Not All the War of the Roses →

Somewhere Between Reasonable and Crazy

January 2, 2020 John Lande 6 Comments

The very touching Netflix movie, Marriage Story, provides an unusually realistic depiction of divorce dynamics. I particularly appreciate the portrayals of the spouses and their eight year-old son, reflecting the complexity of their conflicts and their ambivalences. Both spouses are decent people – and both have their foibles. They struggle with the tension between caring … Continue reading Somewhere Between Reasonable and Crazy →

Culinary Negotiation

February 22, 2018 John Lande Leave a comment

A recent episode of the Modern Love podcast told the story of a man struggling to deal with conflicting desires of his mother and wife to cook him delicious meals. While having too much good food may not seem problematic, negotiating serially with one’s wife and mother sure can be. This account reveals subtle ways … Continue reading Culinary Negotiation →

Three Easy Pieces

January 24, 2018 John Lande Leave a comment

This post channels 60% of Jack Nicholson but without the chicken salad sandwich. It describes three short pieces that you might want to use in courses or continuing education programs. Overcoming Roadblocks to Settlement The first is an article entitled Overcoming Roadblocks to Reaching Settlement in Family Law Cases published in Family Advocate, the magazine … Continue reading Three Easy Pieces →

Mashburn on Mediation in Open Adoption Cases

June 5, 2016 John Lande 1 Comment

Probably like most faculty who read this blog, at my school, we are very proud of our students (or most of them, anyway). We want to let people know of their good work, so we are highlighting some of their publications in our Journal of Dispute Resolution. I am starting with an excellent comment by … Continue reading Mashburn on Mediation in Open Adoption Cases →