I recently wrote a post about the film, Marriage Story, which depicts a somewhat bad divorce. That story fit into very common negative narratives about bad divorces and divorce lawyers. Of course, there are bad divorces and divorce lawyers – though probably not as many as suggested in popular culture. Indeed, to reflect some balance, … Continue reading A Story of a Good Divorce
There’s a very common myth that all divorces are bitter cat-and-dog struggles like the movie, The War of the Roses. (Of course, many cats and dogs get along just fine, like mine do.) This myth just ain’t so. Although the couple in Marriage Story had some angry fights, they retained a reservoir of love and … Continue reading It’s Not All the War of the Roses
The very touching Netflix movie, Marriage Story, provides an unusually realistic depiction of divorce dynamics. I particularly appreciate the portrayals of the spouses and their eight year-old son, reflecting the complexity of their conflicts and their ambivalences. Both spouses are decent people – and both have their foibles. They struggle with the tension between caring … Continue reading Somewhere Between Reasonable and Crazy
Having recently railed against the popularity of superhero movies, I was struck by the themes in the new animated film, Incredibles 2, a satire of the superhero genre. One major theme is about people’s problematic desires for superheroes. A speech by the villain summarizes the critique of people’s dependence on superheroes. She says: “Screenslaver interrupts … Continue reading What’s Wrong with Superheroes?
I don’t understand people from your planet. Many Americans and other earthlings are obsessed with superhero movies. Writer Mark Bowden recently noted that “Seven of the 11 top-grossing films of 2017 were superhero movies, based on characters first introduced in comic books.” That doesn’t even include the gigazillion epic hero movies that are not based … Continue reading An Alien Perspective
Virtually everyone in our field knows about the wonderful book, Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most, by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen. It focuses on everyday conversations and not just crystalized disputes. It describes how people can better understand what is (and is not) happening in their interactions, identify erroneous assumptions, … Continue reading Difficult Conversations in the Modern Era of (Anti-)Social Media